Echoes of hard times....Part 2 (Its just not enough)

Hi everyone,

So, I got an interesting email today. I figured I had to share it with you guys because its just one of many that I read everyday.  

It read " Dear Eleanor,  

My name is Mercy. Im a 30year old lady, and the owner of my own company.   I've also been married for about a year plus. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby even before we decided to get married. Due to our busy schedules, we consider the 12th of every month to be our anniversary (special day), and I have the best sex of my life on that particular day of the month only. My friends think its awkward, but I just feel they don't understand our kind of relationship. I know I'm not infertile because it doesn't run in my family, but I'm much to scared to see a doctor. I feel if I do, it would seem as if there is something truly wrong with me, and I don't want to loose my husband. Please, what do you think I should do?"

Now my reply to Mercy was;

"My dear Mercy, 

My heart goes out to you, and I know it can be really difficult trying for a baby. However, once a month?........guurrrlll!!!.........seriously??? I can't understand why thats supposed to be. Sex with your husband is a beautiful thing, and from your mail, I figure he is definitely hitting it right. But  Im still in shock its got to be once a month. Im sorry to say dearie, but you can't have a baby that way.   Any doctor who knows his stuff would certainly tell you the same thing. You need to be having good sex at least three times a week to achieve a natural pregnancy. Now, Im not going to suggest you start thinking about infertility just yet, because technically, you both don't fit the definition (at least not yet). But I do suggest you see a fertility specialist. He would monitor your ovarian cycle, and then estimate what days are your most fertile days (windows), so you guys can stop trying blindly. But sweetie, you guys are going to have to try making love more often. Its certainly more fun to explore that option first before you go see a doctor....isn't it??.....Kind Regards Eleanor"

 I realise a lot of women are scared about even the notion of being infertile (its understandable), and they decide not to go see a doctor. But ladies and gents, you need to realise that theres something like doctor patient confidentiality. A doctor has no right to discuss your medical issues with anyone, not even your spouse, especially if you don't want him to. So you should feel free to go for a fertility consultation. Another thing I would like to point out ....ladies.... you know time waits for no man, unfortunately neither does your biological clock for you. Your biological clock and career developmental clock are almost always in conflict. But we have been blessed with the ability to multi-task, so lets take advantage of that, and have our babies and career (why not have it all if you can?). 

 But as always.....LOVE YOURSELF!!!!